Friend or For: Spiritual Compatibility ~


“Can two walk together, except they be agreed?”
(Amos 3:3)

What does it mean to be spiritually compatible with other believers? It doesn’t mean that we’re exactly alike; rather, our diversity of strengths and weaknesses can offer great opportunities for growth. A spiritually compatible spouse or friend is a gift from God to encourage, exhort, and strengthen each other and hold each other accountable. In my study last night, the Spirit brought me some enlightenment on how we can assess their spiritual compatibility around the certain questions. Let’s look at the following, shall we?

Who does this person really serve?


“And if it seem evil unto you to serve the Lord, choose you this day whom ye will serve; whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the flood, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land ye dwell: but as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.” (Joshua 24:15)

Sometimes people can give the appearance that they are serving God and others, yet over time it may be apparent that they are really only serving themselves. Time will reveal their true master, and eventually their true selves will emerge over time; and this is why having discernment, which the indwelling Holy Ghost will give you as a guide is so very important …..


What spiritual value do they bring to the relationship?

“But exhort one another daily, while it is called To day; lest any of you be hardened through the deceitfulness of sin.”
(Hebrews 3:13)

The relationship is either drawing us closer or further from God. The right spiritual companion will always lead us to desire more of God than anything else. If the relationship causes confusion, anxiety, or in any way isn’t encouraging and uplifting, then it is not a friend that you have but a foe ….


Where do they draw their spiritual strength?

“They go from strength to strength, every one of them in Zion appeareth before God.” (Psalm 84:7)

If their strength is rooted in their physical appearance, mental abilities, bubbling personality, works that they do, gifts that they give, or anything other than God alone, the relationship will be off balance. If the conversations and all communication isn’t lining up with the Word, then just as equally their strength will be a drain on your strength ….



Why do they want to be in a relationship with you?

“All the ways of a man are clean in his own eyes; but the Lord weigheth the spirits.” (Proverbs 16:2)

Are their intentions pure or ungodly? The Holy Spirit will plainly reveal the truths of their hearts if we are willing to listen and watch their lives with unbiased discernment. It is vital that we are open to the leading of the Holy Ghost to guide us into all truth. The enemy is deceitful. We must remember that he was beautiful to behold, as an angel of light. A companion can be deceptive; bringing gifts into our lives that seem to be additives to us or our ministry, that are disguised as blessings, causing us to not question their motives and unless we are walking in the Spirit we may miss the true intent of the heart ….


When do they make time for God in prayer and Bible study?

“As the hart panteth after the water brooks, so panteth my soul after thee, O God.” (Psalm 42:1)

Everyone who sits before God in consistent conversation, prayer and meditation will handle life differently than those who don’t. Their time with God will be evident in the fruit of their behaviors, their desires, and their conversation. If there is no hunger, no longing for more of God and less of them, if there is no conversations giving honor to the Lord and the extolling the virtues of the Holy Ghost, chances are you aren’t on the same page, and no amount of gifts, money, or blessings can sustain a relationship devoid of the Holy Ghost …

How is this relationship developing your spiritual maturity?

“Therefore leaving the principles of the doctrine of Christ, let us go on unto perfection; not laying again the foundation of repentance from dead works, and of faith toward God, of the doctrine of baptisms, and of laying on of hands, and of resurrection of the dead, and of eternal judgment.
And this will we do, if God permit.” (Hebrews 6:1-3)


If we aren’t drawn to pray more intently, study more deeply, or live more purposely for the Lord, this relationship may be more of a hindrance to our faith. If they aren’t dwelling in unity then they are sowing seeds of discord which will ultimately cause us to falter in our spiritual journey and question ourselves, our pastors, and even our very doctrine ….

What doctrine are they professing?

“But avoid foolish questions, and genealogies, and contentions, and strivings about the law; for they are unprofitable and vain.” (Titus 3:9)


If a spiritual companion is not following the sound teachings preached by Jesus Christ, the sound doctrine of repentance, the necessity of baptism of the Holy Ghost with the evidence of speaking in tongues, and their conversations do not align with what the Word of God says, they are not companions, plain and simple. God’s Word is clearly full of scriptures and passages detailing the gifts of the Spirit, the necessity of walking in the Spirit and the power of the Holy Ghost. The term Holy Spirit appears at least 90 times in the New Testament. The sacredness of the Holy Spirit is affirmed in all three Gospels (Matthew 12:30–32), (Mark 3:28–30) and (Luke 12:8–10), not to forget the mention in (Acts 2:4), which clearly describe the baptism, the accompanied speaking in the heavenly language or tongues and the following teachings of the Apostle Paul which proclaim that blasphemy against the Holy Spirit is the unforgivable sin ….


And the Word explicitly says to reject them (Titus 3:9), be separate from them (2 Corinthians 6:17), turn away from them (2 Timothy 3:5), and then shall the Lord receive us and we shall be His sons and daughters ….

“But though we, or an angel from heaven, preach any other gospel unto you than that which we have preached unto you, let him be accursed.”
(Galations 1:8)


Let us pray ~

Loving Father I know that we are living in days when there is so much deception; not only in the world but in the Church so that it is often difficult to know the truth; yet, You have told us that if we know the truth, the truth will set us free.

Thank You that I am already free form the bondage of sin and death and have my feet firmly planted on the Lord Jesus Christ. I also ask that You would grant me discernment and an understanding heart to know what is good and true and to be able to identify and reject what is false and deceptive. Help me to test every spirit to see what is truth or whether deception is being peddled. Give me wisdom and understanding to discern the difference between truth and error, and the sound from the unsound. I pray and thank You that You are not a God of confusion, but the God of peace. Give me an understanding heart, and
I ask to be kept from becoming captive to the philosophies of men and to be alert to the empty deceit of this world system; the traditions of man and the false religiosity that seems to predominate in Christians today. Use me I pray, to be Your hands and feet ~ Your voice and heart that I may be a channel through which You pour out Your grace to be a help to others ~ may I decrease to nothing so that only Christ is seen in my life. I ask this in the power of the Spirit and in the name of Jesus, in Whose name I pray. Amen ….



Published by: A ~ Rambling ~ Zealot ~

Saved, sanctified, and Spirit filled; I'm an on- fire, tongue-talkin' Holy Ghost dynamo! I am Your kindling my Lord ... lay me across Your alter; that Your fire may consume me and burn so brightly that all who see me may see YOU!!! .. May You be glorified in everything I say, do, or post ....

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