“Casting all your care upon Him; for He careth for you.”
(1 Peter 5:7)
I often say there are two kinds of people in the world: the people who have ulcers, and the people who give them. Can you relate? I certainly can …. I call these “sandpaper people” ……
Sandpaper people are definitely ulcer giving people unless we learn to choose peace over worry when dealing with them. Getting along with people who rub you the wrong way is difficult at best and can sometimes make peace seem impossible to find. That is only true if peace is dependent on outer circumstances ….. It isn’t …..
Peace is an inside job and comes only from God. Nothing can take the place of peace, and it is nearly impossible to counterfeit.
Sandpaper people are not peaceful people. One of the very reasons they are rough around the edges is because they are not at rest ~ with God, with themselves or with others. They may not know God. And sadly, if they do have a personal relationship with Him, they may not understand who they are in Him and who He wants to be to them. They may not have a true understanding of His Word or His promises, especially to give us rest: “Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.” (Matthew 11:28).
Sandpaper people will continually arrange the circumstances of their lives to set themselves up for failure, proving to everyone, including God and even their own heart, that what everyone believes about them is true ~ they are worthless. This is called “self- sabotage” and we must not be fooled by their temper tantrums, their boisterous antics, or their brooding silences; all traps of their own making that sooner or later will imprison them in disappointment and defeat. Worry is their jailor; and they are held hostage by their own attitudes, which can imprison each one of us unless we learn to deal with worry and anxiety effectively …..
Worry is a control issue. It is playing God, foolishly thinking we can handle difficult relationships, problems, or even circumstances on our own. Every time we choose to worry, we are choosing not to trust God ~
(Isaiah 26:3) “Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee.”
Have you ever noticed that the sandpaper people thrive on drama? Everything is a big deal! Drama flows freely through the veins of every sandpaper person I have ever met. Under the spotlight of opportunity; everything, no matter how insignificant it may seem, escalates into a major crisis filled with worry, distorting what is real, and such a waste of time …
In (1 Peter 5:7) we discover the secret of handling worry ~ by casting every care on Him. Basically it is saying give all your worries to Him, because He cares about you. I love this verse because in essence it is saying God has volunteered to be the dumping ground for every fear, every worry, and every difficult relationship that I should ever encounter. We must learn to take those difficult people to God and leave them there, in the palm of His hand. I know they might come crawling back into your peace, but stand firm in your resolve to keep taking them back to the place of wholeness.
Queen Esther is an amazing example of a woman who learned how to choose peace over worry. She was confronted with a frightening set of circumstances and had every right to worry:
* She was taken from her home for the second time since birth…..
* She was thrust into the overwhelming role of queen…..
* She was the wife of a king….
* She faced her foremost sandpaper person, an evil man named Haman who plotted to kill her and her people….
* She was responsible for the future of a whole nation…..
Wow, talk about the perfect chance to work up a huge mountain of worry! Instead though, Esther chose to trust God. After fasting and praying, she threw every fear on God, including her fear of Haman. Because she chose peace over worry, Esther’s problem was resolved and peace reigned in her heart ….
I think we sometimes miss the solution to handling our “sandpaper people” simply because we have allowed worry to take us hostage. Right now, today, choose peace and do not worry about anything, especially those sandpaper people who might be rubbing you the wrong way.
As it is written: “Be careful (anxious) for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”
When we choose peace over anxiety, we are paving the way for difficult people to encounter the Prince of Peace Himself. Choose peace over worry!
Let’s pray ~
Father, please forgive me when I give in to fear and worry instead of stepping out in faith and believing You. Help me learn how to capture my thoughts and train them to focus on You. I want to become a woman who trusts You; no matter how difficult some of the people in my life may be. My faith is sometimes small, but I now choose to place it in You. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.