One of life’s most difficult obstacles can be the family we come from. There are many choices we make in life, but choosing our family is not one of them.
Some people come from a long line of God-seeking ancestors. It is within their legacy and has become their heritage to carry on the banner of Christ. However, there are those whose family story isn’t quite so ideal, and I happen to be one of them …..
Some families can be ungodly, toxic, or even downright harmful. So how do we overcome the ungodly environments that we may have been raised in? How do we break out of a cycle of hurt, disappointment and fear? Is that even possible? Yes, most certainly, it is. You are not a bi-product of your environment and you can start by embracing these three blessings ~
1.) Understand that you may not have chosen your family, but God chose you to be in His ~
“He hath chosen us in Him before the foundation of the world”
No matter what your circumstances are, God chose you. He chose you over an unbroken relationship with His own son! Whether you have been abandoned physically or emotionally, you are select; chosen by the Creator of the universe. He paid dearly to be reconciled and reunited with you!
2.) You are made brand new when you are found in Him ~
(2 Corinthians 5:17)
“Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.”
When you choose God and His kingdom, your past is wiped clean. The more you meditate on His great love, and the extent to which He expressed that love for you, the more the effects of your past can be healed …..
3.) You are called a child of God ~
“For ye are all the children of God by faith in Christ Jesus.”
“But as many as received Him, to them gave He power to become the sons (daughters) of God, even to them that believe on His name: which were born, not of blood, nor of the will of the flesh, nor of the will of man, but of God.”
Our faith makes us His child. Our genealogy changes once we choose Him. And He is the ultimate parent!
Overcoming our childhood environment can be very difficult. Embracing these blessings is a good start because they affirm our identity in Christ. But as Christians, we have another advantage. God’s Word instructs us in how to be whole and healthy human beings and members of our new spiritual family ….
And how do we better identify with our spiritual family, you ask? Simply through the truth of His Word ..
(James 1:18) says, “Of His own will begat He us with the word of truth, that we should be a kind of firstfruits of his creatures.”
Perhaps a little easier to understand, in the Living Bible version it says, “And it was a happy day for Him when He gave us our new lives through the truth of His Word, and we became, as it were, the first children in his new family.”
According to this scripture, we have new lives through the truth of God’s Word. There are two systems on planet earth: the world’s system and God’s system. God explains how those who choose to identify with Him should live by His instruction book, the Bible. We experience “new life” when we identify with God’s family creed. And this is by submitting to the guidance of the Holy Spirit.
“For ye have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear; but ye have received the Spirit of adoption, whereby we cry, Abba, Father. The Spirit itself beareth witness with our spirit, that we are the children of God.”
We are to allow the Spirit of God to lead us. It is easy to let our emotions and desires determine our decisions. Culture also puts pressure on us to go with the flow of what is current and relevant. However, our steps are to be directed by the Lord. After all, we are His children, and we should look and act like Him. How? By following His example.
“Be ye therefore followers of God, as dear children.”
Children love to imitate their parents! How often do we see a toddler pretending to talk on a cell phone, or make dinner? They watch and imitate us. As children of God we need to watch and imitate our Father. And ultimately, the simplest way to imitate Christ is to put others first. Jesus not only did this by giving His life, but by giving up His life in the everyday.
“Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others.”
This command has a wide range of applications. From giving up your seat on the bus, to confronting injustice, to giving your life up for another; putting others first sets us apart from the way the world does things, and as (v.5) says, “Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus” …..
Whether you’ve come from a godly family who has trained you diligently to be a part of God’s family, or you’ve recently been adopted into the family of God; as Christians, it is our privilege to enter into a new genealogy. In this family tree, God is our father and Jesus, our brother so to speak. We can live according to the book of genealogy and family stories which they have left behind for us. We can trade the thinking that has come from our earthly family
environment and genealogy for our new family creed.
(Romans 12:2) says, “And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.”
Living by the rules of our “new house” identifies us with the head of that house. In so doing, we can now acknowledge our kinship with our Heavenly Father …
Let us pray ~
Father God; we pray that the homes of Christian families today, may return to the foundational bedrock of their Christian faith, where Christ is the focus of their hope, where prayer and praise become the daily delight of each member of the household; and where godly principles and practices become the standard and not the exception. Lord we recognize that the foundations of family life and godly living are being eroded at the very core, by those that would seek to undermine godly principles and replace them with doctrines of demons, pagan practices and devilish devices. But Father; the Lord Jesus Christ Himself said that He would build His church and that the gates of hell would not prevail against her.
Strengthen the Christian families today, and may they be drawn back into closer communion with You; day by day as husbands and fathers resume their rightful place as the God-ordained head of their household, and their wives adorn the virtuous apparel of the godly and submissive wife; where children learn respect and obedience to their parents, and where Christ is honoured at every meal-table and reverenced at every bed-side.
Hear us Lord, the desires and petitions of Your servants and may the Christian families of our nation and throughout the world be united in family prayer, family praise and family fellowship with each other and with You in the name of Jesus Christ our Lord, Amen.